Very strong yet very meaningful words one hears in most motivational talks/reads/speeches. It is this very positive trait of believing in the self and its potential that keeps all of us going. Or rather, the believers of this lead a more satisfied life!
With so much going around and so many people influencing one another, some directly, some in an askance manner, some forcefully, it all boils down to the one who has complete conviction and self belief who sails through all of these many external factors. He or she takes up the entire onus of their actions and words. Some good or bad may happen along the way but as long as the strong conviction of self stays, it’ll all pan out to be good in the end. It’s difficult to sort of sieve oneself from all the worldly advices and outward influences, but the one with a strong understanding of the self sails through smoothly. This comes from a lot of self introspection and personal assessment periodically.
In raising kids, enough and more feed, advice and talks ,solicited or otherwise, comes your way. It is entirely up to us to either take it or leave it. If left, regrets should not follow the course. The idea behind leaving is a complete control of your mind and your thoughts and your beliefs and your convictions! If you feel what you do is right, stick to that belief no matter how someone else reacts to it. Kids might/ might not do well or perform up to expectations in some areas but then one should sit calmly and assess the reasons, understand the circumstances and instil a sense of positivity to the kids and transmit positive vibes. In this, succumbing and feeling helpless and sad is very quickly sensed by all around and then the complete situation goes for a toss. What can steer it back to the reality is a sit back and stock taking of the situation at hand and reminding oneself about ones belief as to why one started this class or that activity with the kids in the first place. It is all a learning for us in our journey but looking at it from our insides and our gut and our intuition is what will take it forward.
It’s the self belief and the conviction that makes leaders. They could err several times but then they own up to their responsibilities and that’s what differentiates them from the others. Agreed that one may have to alter their plans as per the circumstances but at the heart of it all, the belief that yes, I can do it should be the drive. On the personal scale too it’s possible to at least strive to be a better version of the self. It’s all inside us to change or accept life as it is. But at the core of it, the strong sense of self belief is what is required. The will to improve will charter its course if one believes in it. Some temperamental changes can also be achieved as everything and anything is within us and our inner being. At times, one gets a feed or a dose from a friend about oneself. If there is a desire after careful self assessment about the need to change or modify or to soften this trait, one can easily do so. In this, an open mind is what works. This again stems from understanding and believing in the self and its immense potential to bring about this change which in turn could only be for the betterment of self.
So it’s nice if we all peek into our own self and seek from within us as the outside is all but a facade! Believe in self and your actions and life and living will be a lot easier.
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