Outside is the old world charm..go out to buy groceries and essentials as and when and along the way, may encounter a few souls, else it’s all serene and peaceful. The bylanes to the neighbourhood shop are seen and felt in more ways than ever before.The drive, if at all, is all smooth minus the regular chaos and the many snarls accompanying it. In all of this , all the associated tempers the outside world poses for us are by far in a deflated state . The chaos, as always, is all within us in different forms. Some have overcome them, some trying to..
Outside has taken us back almost 30 years. Inside has accelerated the pace by years with all of us adopting the technology of today and an unknown tomorrow. Ironically, it has also slowed us down in some ways..
Outside is the sound of nature and birds chattering. The natural world is absorbed and felt in all it’s avatars at different hours and times of the day which otherwise was all too oblivious. Inside is all the human elements at play, some happy, some a struggle.
Outside is all feeling fresh and new with spring time flowers, refreshing greens and the likes while amongst all of us humanity, we are refreshing our old memories, thoughts, friends , family in more ways than ever thought of before.Barring the human personal interactions, all but otherwise is going on as ever.
Outside is an eerie silence , inside is the turmoil of uncertainty.
Paradoxically, all is ok but not ok.
In all of this, it’s nice to feel utterly and immensely proud of thy selves in trying and managing and after a point in time ,managing it rather well! What felt , at first, an insurmountable task today has been overcome by each of us in our own individual way with our own individual rhythm. Here again, our good resilience has played a major role.In more ways than ever before, most of us are experimenting with the many bold and beautiful stuff the world has to offer in all its bounties. It is with a great sense of self pride should we all be strutting about when we step into the world of tomorrow. The world, per se, would be the same as we have left it but probably we all would be stepping outside with a lot more awareness, know-how about things and self and of course, if empathy, understanding, calmness and contentment become our second nature, it is for all of us to experience the resetted world through a different lens.
My children too are looking forward to having physical encounters and the social connect which has been the missing element, else the pace of life and living has been established by them all so peacefully . Feelings of gratitude pour out at every step they sense within their limited understanding. Stepping aside for a minute to acknowledge our going through tough times with grace and dignity will only enhance our self worth and make us feel super proud of our immense abilities.
Let’s all try and connect the paces of the outside and the inside for a more tolerant and understanding self and a more harmonious living.
A lot has gone on for the past few week s which has kept me from penning my thoughts, but then I found my balance in all of this so here I go again..
No matter where or how life’s path has put you in, there’s always a way forward. One nasty experience can set you back but rational thinking and sticking to what you believe in can make you bounce back. I very recently went through the torture of being caught, unawares in an unpleasant experience which involved the emotions of both, me and my kid. More so, the mind didn’t wish to accept and believe this learning as something relevant and apt so the revolt was even more. It was a drudge and a drag but no doubt, this uninteresting experience for both of us was for sure, a learning to deal with people and places! Sticking to my self belief was the saving grace to make me pull out from any further drags in this experience. The initial feeling was one of despair and hopelessness but a constant talking to the mind in reiterating my belief in this made me bounce back. The point is, no matter how badly one is stuck in and no matter how much one feels about the chips being down, there is always a way to bounce back and come alive again.
Taking this to the scenario we are in today, the only way to get ourselves up and going is to take all of this as an almost life changing experience and repeatedly tell ourselves and remind ourselves that this too shall pass . The new pace of life has been reset by most of us in our own individual way and it’s heartening to know how well we all have moved from denial to frustration to acceptance. Here again, it’s our mind which has reset itself and found new ways of convincing and believing in it. Yes, it’s a huge solace to know that we are not alone in this so maybe that’s made it more tolerant and accepting.
Let’s hope and pray we all bounce back from this and till such time, make the most of this once -in -a -lifetime experience, call it god sent or man made or any other appropriate label one chooses to.
The resilient ones are already on the other side of this, namely the young ones here who have carefully chalked out all their future plans. Well, the future , in some scenarios looks cancelled for many of us but for these little lots, there’s a lot waiting for them. Just awaiting for the go-ahead signal is all they will need to bounce back. Sometimes, this child like thinking can make us feel more bouncy than we are and who doesn’t need that more NOW ! So while we are all discovering new age living modules and technology has really made it easier for the lot of us who have the access to it, let’s keep the faith going for the many and a speedy recovery from all of this! Slotting the current situation in the HOPE AND PRAY department will keep us all going. Smile and the world will be a happier place!
So many are we a part of! the obvious ones and the obscure ones, each having their own merits. On a recent trip to be a part of a well thought of get together, so many new and old relationships formed the core of togetherness..everyone was scampering around to meet and greet family and bond over the old and new.The joys on faces was seen and felt in equal measures. The established relationships were going through the loop of connecting and joining the dots from the previous meeting and the new ones were beginning to see the telltale future signs of similar connections! It’s actually fun to see how hard the younger generation tries in making their offsprings connect to the golden oldies. There’s awe, there are charming gestures and all and all there is the really good drive on their part to integrate the young blood into the old broods. Pictures, both old and new, become critical in showing lineages and with the barrage of new gen technologies,the relationships of the old and new get blended rather well. The warm welcomes accorded to establish new relationships is actually heart warming to see and feel and experience. It was all but wonderful to see the generation-span all woven in happy togetherness!
Relationships, established over time, have their own sense of quirkiness and idiosyncrasies and it’s fun at times, deja vu in situations but overall a good mix of fun and frolic amidst some skirmishes which are a part of any relationship that has stood the test of time. They prove to be wonderful seams to zip up the existing bonds and sometimes familiarity to people and faces brings about an altogether new level of observation and learning thereof each time they all meet.The longevity of relations established is actually an investment of time, despite distances, proximity or otherwise. They need to be nurtured on a sustained and periodic basis. Tough to do so , though, in this fast moving world. There’s also a thing called the relationship fatigue..happens to all of us when it’s exhausting to just keep the bonds going on. Maybe when this fatigue sets in, might be nicer to step aside for a while than to go ahead and in the bargain develop those cracks which might be difficult to mend. Sometimes, being incommunicado for resetting ones own being and self might just be better for all concerned. The have-to maintain law has to be broken at times, when the mind gives such signals. In time, it would all smoothen out when the will and desire to reconnect emerges again. Till such time, it’s prudent to maintain a safe distance. Liberties taken , sometimes, backfires and it all spins out of proportion!
Tough and tiring to build and maintain relationships but at the end of it all, it is the people around us who either make or break our day but required nonetheless for a meaningful existence. Real life people and not our virtual wonders is what keeps us going afterall.
Best policy awards for years together and more to come! This wonderful trait is what really sets a person apart. A mere glimpse is enough to judge one on this quality. Of course, hugely substantiated by patterns of behaviour across a broad spectrum. And this pattern stays for most parts of a beings existence and living.
So much of this is inculcated by us to our young ones at a very young age. Very very clearly seen in the little ones who do justice to this. Huge importance ought to be given to value this trait as being one of the greatest reward for a decent tomorrow. The honest intention is but honestly seen in an eye to eye encounter with the lot. Kids who are really honest take this, at times, to an altogether different plane and even sometimes white lies with them becomes difficult to pull off!
There’s no better friend who doesn’t beat around the bush but says it clearly and honestly about you. When a casual meeting or a coffee outing is cancelled with an honesty factor thrown in, the bonds only grow stronger. There could be nice people who one is surrounded with but the ones who stay true to you are the ones whose eyes reflect an honest yes or no in situations. This is very clearly seen!
Honest feedback from well meaning folk is needed time and again for a reality check. Very recently, I almost sensed a sense of resentment towards me when I spoke honesty about what I felt when children are being coached/ trained by a professional and when the well meaning parent is in the sidelines throws their inputs unabashedly and very non- chalantly. My honest take on this was to back off from the core and be a bystander and to see how young ones blossom and learn on their own. It did meet glaring eyes at me but then , be it, my honestly really can’t be judged and if it is, I will be there to see the outcome on the kids at a later date. Yet again, I am almost losing my equation with an aquaintance turned friend in yet another situation where an outright honest answer to a rather personal query evoked another not called for situation! Am honestly ok at both the instances as it didn’t come as a contrived and thought of response; much rather it was my ingrained sense of being true that spelled out!
If you feel lousy, be honest about it, if the chips are down, honesty will bring them up again, if you don’t want to go out for dinner, speak the truth without mincing words, if kids have erred, no point in basking in false pride, if you don’t feel up to something, speak honestly, if the pudding is miserable say it! If all else fails, honesty will surely go out a long way and for the longest time! Come winter, even the tress shed their leaves honestly to pave way for new beginnings! So, stay true, stay honest and all else is really not worth it!
Of course I know it all, and why not..am in the autumn of my life with all spring time galloping tapering off and a calm sense of self awareness becoming the essence of my existence..still, it’s an open mind and openness to situations and surroundings that will sustain me in the times to come. No harm in taking a lead or two, directly or indirectly from people known or also some who fall in the periphery of mere acquaintances. Sometimes, it’s this openness which springs up the surprises and the many odd laughs which all make for a brighter living.
Recently having learnt a thing or two from time spent in the company of close pals actually opened my mind to see possibilities which my mind had completely shut off and I was comfortable with the way things were until newness and a willingness to experiment brought about renewed laughter. Why, I was a rather open soul in my so called spring days so why the self convincing shut off in my current state! In allowing myself to be an experimental rat out of pure choice actually saw a rather different and pleasant outward look! The make- up brush and artist more than brushed my attitude towards things “(Deep inside I continue to be the same though!)
The individual norm is well, formed , but it’s always subject to change and well, it’s nice that way. Rigidity with respect to habits can be swerved to preferences and changing/ constantly amending brings about pleasant surprises. Openness makes your worldview very different that at times, you almost amaze yourself! If we actually don’t just look only into our favourites for food, clothing, music, art and the likes, there is this whole world waiting to be explored . It may be absolutely ok to NOT have favourites, that way , the rather malleable mind can see immense newness and sometimes an element of fun and new self understanding.
Opening my mind to new genres of music, something which I felt was never my thing has taught me to be thankful and appreciative to the many who have made me think otherwise. It’s ok to not know things but should a chance come to you to try, it’s also interesting to try ,nonetheless. The same is different points of view on general daily activities. Something, sometime , someone sounds and resonates with you and being open kind of makes you see it in the new light and you go for it..adjustments in life are better addressed if the mind is open.
Deep down , I feel, we all are actually very open but somewhere we assign titles and names to ourselves which shuts our own minds. Readjusting and realigning the mind can go a long way and it’s all up to the individual to do so and it’s all very doable too! I am fortunate to be spending a good part of my day with people who have kind of reinforced this belief and who time and again bring this thought up. So listening to ourselves and absorbing constant feedback is a nice way of seeing oneself in newer lights and multi dimensional personalities. My way is the only way makes way for other ways which are both, pleasant and surprising! So I have at least learnt to open up, open out and stop walling off!
Very strong yet very meaningful words one hears in most motivational talks/reads/speeches. It is this very positive trait of believing in the self and its potential that keeps all of us going. Or rather, the believers of this lead a more satisfied life!
With so much going around and so many people influencing one another, some directly, some in an askance manner, some forcefully, it all boils down to the one who has complete conviction and self belief who sails through all of these many external factors. He or she takes up the entire onus of their actions and words. Some good or bad may happen along the way but as long as the strong conviction of self stays, it’ll all pan out to be good in the end. It’s difficult to sort of sieve oneself from all the worldly advices and outward influences, but the one with a strong understanding of the self sails through smoothly. This comes from a lot of self introspection and personal assessment periodically.
In raising kids, enough and more feed, advice and talks ,solicited or otherwise, comes your way. It is entirely up to us to either take it or leave it. If left, regrets should not follow the course. The idea behind leaving is a complete control of your mind and your thoughts and your beliefs and your convictions! If you feel what you do is right, stick to that belief no matter how someone else reacts to it. Kids might/ might not do well or perform up to expectations in some areas but then one should sit calmly and assess the reasons, understand the circumstances and instil a sense of positivity to the kids and transmit positive vibes. In this, succumbing and feeling helpless and sad is very quickly sensed by all around and then the complete situation goes for a toss. What can steer it back to the reality is a sit back and stock taking of the situation at hand and reminding oneself about ones belief as to why one started this class or that activity with the kids in the first place. It is all a learning for us in our journey but looking at it from our insides and our gut and our intuition is what will take it forward.
It’s the self belief and the conviction that makes leaders. They could err several times but then they own up to their responsibilities and that’s what differentiates them from the others. Agreed that one may have to alter their plans as per the circumstances but at the heart of it all, the belief that yes, I can do it should be the drive. On the personal scale too it’s possible to at least strive to be a better version of the self. It’s all inside us to change or accept life as it is. But at the core of it, the strong sense of self belief is what is required. The will to improve will charter its course if one believes in it. Some temperamental changes can also be achieved as everything and anything is within us and our inner being. At times, one gets a feed or a dose from a friend about oneself. If there is a desire after careful self assessment about the need to change or modify or to soften this trait, one can easily do so. In this, an open mind is what works. This again stems from understanding and believing in the self and its immense potential to bring about this change which in turn could only be for the betterment of self.
So it’s nice if we all peek into our own self and seek from within us as the outside is all but a facade! Believe in self and your actions and life and living will be a lot easier.